Ladies, the temptation to seek out a fellow is everywhere! From the television, to the movies, in your friendships, to books, even your own deceitful heart. Society has revealed to us that it is perfectly normal to desire a man and to act on it. Even God says in Genesis, "and her desire will be for her husband." What a relief to know it is normal to desire a man! The acting part; however, it where it becomes tricky. Getting to spend time with young teenage girls, I am getting a glimpse into the teenage girl I use to be. Boys were my heart and I was the girl who tried everything to get them to notice me. Oh they noticed me alright and they tucked their tails between their legs and ran in the opposite direction. Desperation is a scary thing for a guy! You are asking that mere man to fill up something inside of you that he has no clue about and wasn't created to do. Be honest with me girls, when you look for a man you want to feel loved and accepted! You think you find someone and you will be complete and on your way to the altar within a matter of days! You will no longer have to worry about those couples around you rubbing their togetherness in your face because you are taken! You are no longer sitting on the shelf collecting dust but are out on the dating scene making kodak memories of your own! You have someone you can pour yourself into! You can invest in someone and your life will be complete! WHAT A LOAD OF BULLARKY! Unfortunately, it is one I believed over and over again! From elementary school all the way into college, I was on a man hunt. A hunt that never got me anywhere and left me feeling emptier than the day I started. All of those desires were meant to be filled by your ULTIMATE HUSBAND! The man of the hour and every hour after that: Jesus Christ! "Take delight in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37:4
You may say, God doesn't want me to have a husband! I have done too many bad things or have you seen the way I look?! That is one desire He knows nothing about! In the Garden of Eden, God sees the man is alone. His name is Adam. God feels immediate concern for Adam because He has given him control over every living thing yet he lacks help to take care of it. So what does God do? He puts Adam into a deep sleep and out of his rib God forms a woman. After He is done creating the woman, HE BRINGS HER TO HIM! Ding, ding, ding!!! I hope you hear wedding bells and do not fail to miss this! The woman is brought to her husband at just the right moment. Does the Bible say she went searching through the garden to find Adam and wake him up?! No! God cared enough for Adam and enough to help Eve and brought the romance together in His perfect timing! Ok, ok, ok that is all beautiful and such you may think but where does that leave me now?! So God brings me someone?! They were the only two in the whole world. It was a piece of cake for them to love each other. They didn't have options. Well, guess what neither do we! Through many trial and errors, God has blessed me with the ability to finally understand romance in His eyes! I have come to realize there are three types of guys and only one type God wants to me to notice in a romantic sense.
1. Mr. Zombie. This is a man who does not claim the name of Jesus Christ in his life. He doesn't believe the Bible is the infallible Word of God and he wants nothing to do with seeking a relationship with Jesus. This type of man may seem like he has it all together, but deep down if he doesn't have Christ then he lacks the fruit of the Spirit and one of the most important aspects of a relationship is love! The Bible says God is love! (1 John 4:8) If he is not a God fearing man than where is the love?! "Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unebeliever?" (2 Corinthians 6:14-15) For years, I didn't care whether the guy was a Christian or not. If he gave me the attention I sought after I was all gungho! God really got a hold of my heart the only way God can when it is stubborn. He showed me through various instances that men like that are zombies personified! They are dead in this life! There is no life inside of them because Jesus came to give us an abundant life! They are walking dead men! If Christ is the Life, the Truth, and the Way and He says He is than those without Him are the opposite! A man without Christ will be death, the lie, and multiple paths that will lead you to join him as one flesh. One death, one lie, and all those paths stretching you in different directions! If you think about what zombies look like on television they are not that attractive! So the next time you see a guy you think is the finest thing since sliced bread picture a zombie and walk the other way!
2. Mr. Bland Man. Hooray! You have graduated from Zombiehood! You are now only allowing Christian men into your life! But guess what?! Now this is where it is time to really embrace the knit-pick attitude! You want a man who exemplifies Christ! You find a man with the characteristics of Him and you find a treasure. However; there are false imitations. A man approaches you for a date and you ask him, "Are you a Christian?" His response is, "Yes I am." This is the part where your heart does a little jig and you jump into the wagon! Whoa, slow down cowgirl! Okay so you have a Christian man but guess what if he's not spicy in Christ than you are not going to get very far! Christ has called us to be the salt of the earth and a man's heart will be revealed from his fruit! If his fruit is rotten then that man is not ready for a God honoring relationship. His life doesn't reveal he is fully committed to putting Jesus first in everything and he is lukewarm! Yuck! The Bible says, (paraphrasing), lukewarm water will be spit out! Spit that excitement right out girlfriend because the next man will blow you away! Hold on just a little bit longer and get ready!
3. MR. RADIANT! This is a man that you can tell from every detail of his life that he walks with Jesus Christ not just here and there but every day of his life! He has died to himself and has allowed Christ to infiltrate every thing about him. Does this mean he is perfect?! Of course not! Not even we as females serving Christ are perfect! Shocker I know, but a man who is allowing Christ to live through him will be the closest thing to Christ Himself in human form that you will be able to attain! That is special and not many women are patient enough to wait for him because that kind of man takes a while to mold! After all he is only a lump of clay. 'He looks to the Lord and is radiant. His face holds no shame!' Take a step back and survey the men closest to you and see if you can identify the radiants from the blands and zombies.
In the meantime, as you wait for God to bring you your heart's desire may I challenge you to get up and live life! Make Christ your desire and see the wonderful adventure unfold! It won't seem like such a long wait with Christ as your Mr. Radiant! The beauty of accepting Him as your one true love is that as you are waiting for your earthly man, He will transform you into MRS. RADIANT! And yes girls, there are guys who are looking for her! You better believe if there is a Mr. Radiant then he is seeking a MRS.!
Put Jesus first, entrust your future mate to Him, then get busy living life abundantly daily! Get involved in youth group or college activities and you will be amazed at the change in your perspective as you depend on Jesus to take care of your every need! Life will no longer seem to drag but will fly by. And maybe just maybe your change will impact others and your group activities will no longer be about finding someone but how Christ can use you to bring others to Him. :)
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